Welcome to Jakki Jones’ Diary of a Mum column. Each month, the illustrator shares her adventures in motherhood
In her latest instalment, Jakki Jones and her growing bump take on a few sessions with a personal trainer.
Pregnancy second time around has definitely been a slightly different experience to my first. The main thing is, I guess, that I’ve had no rest and recoup time.
While pregnancy-number-one weekends were all about me slobbing around the house in my jim-jams and watching box sets, those so-called days off are now completely jam-packed with a mixture of ballet, hip hop, drama, playdates, birthday parties and so on. Saturday is easily the busiest day of any mum (and especially this one’s) week.
And for that reason my energy levels seem lower and I feel constantly knackered. As soon as Riley’s in bed at 7pm I’m desperate to hit the sack myself.
I guess I have to also consider the fact that I’m now four years older and the added daily journey to nursery each morning and afternoon, followed by the commute to work is naturally going to take its toll more. Come 9am I feel like I’ve done half a day’s work already!
On top of all that, my husband has been on a rigorous European tour so I’ve been solo parenting. Lots of people ask me if I find this challenging. The answer is yes and no.
Of course, I really miss having him around, and two pairs of hands are certainly better than one. However as we’ve been together for more than a decade, I’ve kind of gotten used to being by myself for a few weeks around touring schedules.
Obviously, when Riley was born the idea of being on my own for a few weeks without him was daunting, but in reality I’ve got Riley into a routine that really works. Coupled with the fact that she’s really well behaved during one-on-one time – presumably because she has my full attention – I cope very well on my own. Although I do wonder if this is all set to change once Baby Jones 2.0 arrives.
I signed up to a personal trainer two weeks before I found out I was pregnant. I must be one of the rare people with a PT who is actually putting on weight and body fat each week! But the training routine has been brilliant for my body and I’m absolutely loving it.
Two one-hour sessions per week of dedicated me-time. This money would usually be my gin-and- going-out fund, but it’s now instead going towards doing something good for body and I’m really enjoying the benefits.
It’s also been nice to share this experience with my friends and on social media, as I think some people are a bit daunted about doing the gym, especially weight-training when they’re pregnant.
David my PT has been great encouraging and supporting me and I really feel it’s done wonders for my strength, my mind and the baby itself. Happy mummy, happy baby and all that.
Saying that, I returned from the gym last week feeling great, and saw a friend I hadn’t seen in a few weeks who told me I was carrying differently compared to when pregnant with Riley.
She told me I was bigger on my ‘tush’ and hip area – and that I must be expecting a boy! So much for my intentions of being a little trimmer. I was a little stunned by the honesty, but while those home truths have sent my lean maternity dreams out of the window, I’m sure a few more squats won’t hurt in the meantime…
Jakki Jones reveals her top finds for this month…
Seeing as I’m resigned to a sober nine months, tea has become my new best friend. And on a psychological level, it’s even better when served up in a very beautiful ceramic cup and saucer. I absolutely adore Burleigh designs, and this pretty pairing is just perfection! Who wouldn’t want to sip their Earl Grey from this?
Body Silk Seamless Nursing Bra
Jakki Jones’ Diary of a Mum: A Family Weekend to Remember
In her latest instalment, Jakki Jones, husband Kelly and daughter Riley – plus the growing bump – take a trip to Paris for a French family weekend to remember
Being married to a professional musician – as you can imagine – means he’s on the road a lot. Most recently he has been away on the Stereophonics’ European tour.
We thought it’d be a great opportunity for a family mini-break. Riley – our three year old – has never been to Paris, so we decided it would be a timely opportunity to take her! And with my baby bump growing fast, I figured it’s now or never… or at least for 2020 anyway.
Eurostar makes travel a whole lot easier with a little lady in tow. We set off early Sunday morning, feeling smug about our impressive packing. We pre-planned outfits for each day, made an immense packed lunch for the journey, and remembered all the usual tech devices, headwear and activity bag. Paris adventure– here we come!
As suspected, the Eurostar journey was gorgeous, pain free and comfortable. And with our M&S picnic, this was fine dining at its best! We arrived at the wonderful Hyatt Paris Madeleine later that day and Riley was delighted to be welcomed by a pick ’n’ mix stall in reception.
Kelly arrived a few hours later and we ran out to meet him as his car pulled up! Despite this being work for him, he was able to have a relaxing family evening, with a rare day off the following day.
Being tourists for only a couple of days it would be rude not to pay a visit to the Eiffel Tower. When we reached the top, who did we bump into, but Kelly’s bandmate, Adam!
Despite the drizzle, the view never disappoints, and Riley loved the excitement of it all. After taking in the Parisian panorama, we took a carousel ride and scoffed a delicious Nutella-filled crepe.
The highlight of the trip was most definitely our evening at daddy’s concert – where Riley was guest of honour. Every door was opened for her and a goodie bag was waiting for her in the dressing room, bursting with treats.
This being-on-the-road malarkey is brilliant! But there’s no doubt about it, attending a gig with a toddler is eventful; we moved from stage side to sound desk, up to the balcony and back to the dressing room for snacks, not easy at six months pregnant.
At the end of the gig, I suggested to Riley that we go to the side of the stage to see ‘daddy’s last song’. She ran to him as we bumped into him in the corridor ahead of the last track. A big good-luck hug certainly perked Kelly up before he took to the stage one last time.
As they started to play Dakota, Riley ran out on stage before I could pull her back. Luckily, she stopped, and just sat down crossed legged and began to clap at the side of the stage.
She watched her dad in amazement until the end where she jumped to her feet for a standing ovation. By this point the audience were now looking at Riley, rather than the band.
Elation peaked when Kelly summoned her over at the end of the song and lifted her up high to rapturous applause from the audience. Although she wasn’t fazed in the slightest it was a night for us all to remember. Now, perhaps a more chilled-out babymoon is on the cards next…
Jakki Jones reveals her top finds for this month…
I had a Silver Elwood gifted to me four years ago when I had Riley and it was literally a godsend. Not only does it look cool as hell, it’s so practical and even an insulated compartment for a bottle of milk (or mini bottle of prosecco!). This pastel pink number is a definite must for me… LOVE!
Jakki Jones’ Diary of a Mum: New Beginnings
In this instalment, Jakki Jones opens up about becoming a mum (and stepmum) for the first time, and how she’s learning to juggle it all…
I was brought up in West London – a Londoner through and through – and am fortunate to have had a gorgeous childhood. With Irish parents, I was the youngest of three girls and still to this day love being the baby!
Music has always been my passion, so it wasn’t a surprise that I went on to study classical music – and have since fallen into a career in music and entertainment. I head up the talent and influencer relations department at an American PR firm called PMK*BNC. I deal with a lot of musicians, actors and celebs in my daily work and – like most – balance a crazy family life on the side.
I started working at PMK*BNC in 2011, prior to which I was at Warner Bros Records and MTV, where I booked talent for various shows. I also have a little side-hustle called Jakki Doodles, something that transpired out of mid-meeting doodling.
Over the last few years I have been fortunate enough to have cards published and sold in various shops such as Selfridges and Paperchase. But it was at MTV where I met my husband, Kelly (lead singer of British band Stereophonics) – and I may add – he has been my best booking to date. I have two wonderful step kids, Colby and Misty and I entered the parenting world relatively young, at the age of 25. My first experience of being a mother was through them.
Becoming a stepmum overnight – and at such a young age – was sometimes quite challenging, but a great learning experience for me. This absolutely meant that when I did decide to become a mother, I was absolutely ready for it.
I became pregnant at 33. It was a good time for me personally – and my career – I felt confident. I took to motherhood ‘third-time round’ like a duck to water – everything felt familiar and dare I say it, easy? Riley, now three, is my world. I think being a stepmother definitely taught me to be selfless – if you can help bring up other people’s children, you can most certainly bring up your own.
I willingly took the full year’s maternity and enjoyed each and every day. And transitioning back to work wasn’t too daunting as I’d kept my foot in the door. I just desperately missed Riley in those early few months.
The juggle became even more apparent – and still to this day I feel like I’m spinning a million plates. Is this just what it’s going to be like? Luckily for me, the hours I work are flexible – the negative side being that I never switch off and am always on call. Entertainment certainly isn’t a 9-5 job.
Having Riley definitely helped me be a better step-parent and wife – as I saw things from a different perspective and finally saw everything I didn’t ‘get’ before. I was no longer a mum in training! Just when everything seemed to calm in the Jones household with a now 15 year old, 12 year old and three-and-a-half year old – we thought we’d crank it up a gear!
2020 is going to bring us a whole new set of challenges with an exciting new chapter in May, as we’re expecting another baby! Naturally, I penned this little doodle to tell our friends and family the good news. Let the crazy commence…
Jakki Jones’ top finds…
- Your Pregnancy Week by Week
- Neev Spencer’s All Things Motherhood
- Maternal Mental Health: Who’s Looking After Mum?