Parenting expert Kathryn Mewes, answers one reader’s question about her clingy baby…
Q) I have a nine month old who is super clingy – he gets so angry and upset if I leave him for only a moment. What can I do?
It is around eight or nine months old that a baby starts to question their surroundings more, and they are now able to question that when you leave a room, ‘Are you coming back?’.
It is something that will pass, but I understand that when you are in it, you feel it is going to last a lifetime! The main thing to do is to continue as you are. Have him engaged in play before you leave the room. Bend down and look into his eyes and tell him where you are going.
“Mummy is just taking the washing upstairs. She will be straight back.”
Promptly leave the room and do as you told him. While you are gone sing loudly or call to him ‘Nearly done. I’m on my way back now.’
Aim to do lots of little trips out of the room over the course of the day and if you continued with this for a full seven day week you are likely to see some improvement.
Get use to telling him where you are going. He won’t fully understand but he will acknowledge the process of “TALK, GO, SING, RETURN”. But do hold onto the fact that this is a phase and it will pass.